A Supportive Guide for New Foster Carers

Foster care is a journey of love, dedication, and resilience. While it brings immense joy and fulfilment, it’s important to acknowledge that it can also come with its fair share of challenges. As a new foster carer, you are embarking on a path that requires not only compassion, patience, and empathy but also the desire to navigate complexities such as building trust, understanding the impact of trauma, abuse and neglect, and responding to the unique needs of the child placed in your care. In this comprehensive guide, we delve into some common challenges which can be experienced when fostering and provide you with practical tips, valuable insights, and essential resources to empower you on your journey as a foster carer.


Building Trust: Establishing the Foundation of Connection

One of the biggest challenges that new foster carers can encounter is building trust with children who have experienced instability and upheaval in their young lives. Trust is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship, and for foster children, who may have faced abuse or neglect, building this foundation is crucial. 

  1. Start Slowly and Respect Boundaries: Understand that trust cannot be rushed. Allow the child to set the pace in terms of interaction and the sharing of emotions, thoughts and feelings. Respect their personal boundaries and avoid pushing them into situations that make them uncomfortable.
  2. Consistency Creates Security: Children who have been through disruptions in their lives often crave consistency. Establish daily routines and clear expectations to create a stable and predictable environment that helps build their sense of security.
  3. Active Listening: Make a conscious effort to listen actively when the child talks. This not only validates their feelings but also shows that you value their thoughts. Engage in conversations that focus on their interests and experiences, allowing them to gradually open up to you.
  4. Celebrate Milestones: Every small step towards building trust is a milestone. Celebrate achievements no matter how small to encourage further trust-building..


Managing Trauma: Compassionate Care in the Face of Challenges

Many foster children have experienced traumatic events that continue to impact their emotional well-being. As a foster carer, understanding the impact of trauma is essential for the child’s healing process. 

  1. Educate Yourself on Trauma: Take the time to learn about the impact of trauma on children’s development. Resources such as books, online courses, and the bespoke trauma and attachment workshops delivered by Five Rivers Fostering can provide valuable insights into trauma-informed care.
  2. Collaborate with Professionals: Engage with your dedicated Five Rivers fostering link social worker and also our therapists, child care workers and counsellors who specialise in trauma-informed care. They can provide you with training, guidance and strategies on how to respond to trauma-related behaviours and emotions.
  3. Creating a Safe Space for Expression: Try and create a calming and supportive environment where the child feels safe expressing their emotions, even if they are challenging. Encourage them to share their feelings and thoughts and help them explore ways in which they may be able to manage their emotions.
  4. Offer Predictability and Stability: Trauma often disrupts a child’s sense of stability. Provide a structured and predictable environment to help them regain a sense of safety. Clearly communicate routines and expectations to help ease anxiety.

Fostering Children with Specific Needs: Tailoring Care for Individual Growth

Each child comes with their own unique set of experiences and needs. Fostering children with specific needs requires a tailored approach that addresses their individual growth and well-being.


  1. Embrace an Individualised Approach:  What works for one child might not work for another. Pay attention to their preferences, triggers, and strengths, and adapt your caregiving accordingly.
  2. Advocate for Support Services: Collaborate with your Five Rivers fostering link worker to ensure that the child receives appropriate services, therapies, and educational support. Advocating for their needs demonstrates your commitment to their well-being.
  3. Forge a Supportive Network: Reach out to fellow foster carers, support groups, and online communities. These connections can provide valuable advice, empathy, and a sense of belonging that can make a significant difference in your fostering journey.
  4. Celebrate Progress, No Matter How Small: Small achievements are big wins in the world of foster care. Celebrate these successes, as they reflect the child’s growth and resilience. Positive reinforcement can boost their self-esteem and motivation.

Foster care requires immense dedication, empathy, and a willingness to overcome challenges. By understanding the importance of building trust, the impact of trauma and individual needs, you are taking a critical step toward creating a nurturing environment for the child placed in your care. Remember that you’re not alone on this journey— your dedicated Five Rivers fostering link worker and the Five Rivers multidisciplinary team, support groups, and the wider foster care community are here to guide and support you and your family and the child placed in your care.

As you navigate these challenges with patience and compassion, you’re making a profound impact on the lives of children in care. Your commitment to their well-being and growth is shaping their future, helping them heal and empowering them to embrace life’s possibilities. In the face of challenges, your role as a foster carer is a beacon of hope, love, and stability, setting a positive trajectory for the child you foster.